I am human.
Things have happened in my life that have made me ask why.
Why did one of my best friends have to leave this world too soon? Why does my grandma have to live in constant pain? Why do I put myself in unrealistic expectations?
I am sure we all have a list of things that we want to know why they happen.
This past year, I have had to endure some situations where I couldn't control the outcome. I was fulfilling my "Not the sweetest person" characteristic of myself. and I was fulfilling the feeling of trying desperately to be perfect.
The end result was not in my favor at all. It sucks for sure to have to go through situations where I have no control. Situations where a negative power was trying to get me to be knocked down and to give up. But I didn't. My mom always tells me that she is proud of how strong I am, and that is because through every situation in my life where things have not gone my way, I have trusted God and moved on instead of dwelling on the could haves. I have always been someone that chooses to not be bitter but to be better because of it. We all make mistakes, and we all put ourselves in situations that seem embarrassing, but we can't let that define us... We need to break through and be stronger, happier and ultimately learn from the experience.
If you are someone that has felt like they couldn't control what was happening. Like no matter what, it would not end well for you. I just want you to know that it gets better. God has a plan for you even though it seems like you had to go through some rocks and needles to get there. Mistakes will 100% be made, but what God helps you to see is how you can grow and learn from it. To be the better person and admit that you could have done something else.
A verse that has been popping up over and over again is:
Be Joyful in Hope,
Patient in Affliction,
Faithful in Prayer.
--Romans 12:12
If you have had a falling out with a friend: Know that its okay. It sucks that you both are not in each others lives any more, but sometimes its for the best. Negativity when coming from both sides is not a good thing to mix. Sometimes friendships that seem like they are the best thing in the beginning, can easily turn into something that becomes unhealthy. You will find that you will become much happier in the end when you choose happiness over trying to make things work when they just won't. Also, just because you are both not feeling the best towards each other right now, doesn't mean you won't ever be friends again. God will not put someone in your life that he didn't think would be good for you. If God is telling your heart to find that friendship again than do it. This has happened many times in my life and God has never failed to show me what is best for me. Like I said before, it may seem like a bad thing and like it was the worst thing ever, but sometimes its needed to make you both become better versions of yourself.
If you are someone that is coming out of a relationship: Now obviously I have never dated anyone before, but I have had many friends that have told me their experiences. If it wasn't right, it wasn't right. Forcing something to work that is refusing to work, will only make you exhausted and in more pain than if you were to just move on. Being bitter about that boy/girl that you loved and now its over, will only make you more sad and stuck in a negative place. There are literally plenty of fish in the sea. Don't focus on one person just because you thought they were the one. Focus on loving yourself, because as Lace said on this season of The Bachelor, "How will someone love me, if I don't even love myself?" (thats not an exact quote but its basically the sum of what she was saying). Choose yourself before choosing to love someone that won't love you back.
If you are someone that is struggling with the awful school stress: I am not going to lie. College is a lot tougher than you think. Its definitely better than high school but it is not an easy ride. I personally learned a lot my freshman year. My grades can prove that to you right away.... OOPS. College or even high school brings on more stress than we feel we can bear. Don't be hard on yourself. You are doing the best that you can. And if I have any advice for you its to use your resources! Get help from your teachers or tutors. Its okay if you can't do it on your own.
If you are someone that is struggling with insecurities: Gosh this one is hard. I could easily say forget them, but thats easier said than done. These insecurities that are consuming you will go away eventually. There are some people that let their insecurities take over their whole life and end up loosing the things/people they love because of it. Don't let that happen. I almost let my insecurities make me loose my friends in high school because instead of me just using my voice and asking if we were okay, I let the insecurities be my voice and it was not too friendly. I didn't say much to people, it was more of talking to myself and starting rumors inside my head like, "They don't like you" "You are not as good as (Fill in the blank)" "You should try to not be yourself so that people will like you". NO! This is Satan using your insecurities to turn you into a mess. You know who you are and you should not let these thoughts that are put in your head change who you are.
These are just a few examples of different types of people....
Being bitter about situations and being negative will not help. Being better than you were before will make such a big change in not only you but the people involved and around you. Learn and grow and let positivity take over instead of negativity.
I am a dreamer. I am creative. I am not perfect but I am wonderfully made by God. I am passionate. I am kind. I am daring. I am adventurous. I am outgoing. I am a best friend. I am a believer of God. I am generous.
This list can go on and on and ultimately beats the list from the beginning. I quite like this list more. Make some lists of your own saying who you are. Because who you are is beautiful.
UPDATES: My last blog post pretty much says my updates for now but something that is new is
THE BRONCOS WON THE SUPER BOWL!!! AHHHH! Of course unless you were living under a rock, you already know this but I figured I should celebrate this with you guys!!
WOOO Throw the confetti! Cheers! Cry!
Okay I will stop.
Thats all for now,
Until next time,
XOXO, Gossip Girl
Aka... M'lyn.
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