Resolutions are something that we all are aware of and we all partake in this time of the year. I am all for them and I think they are really good for us because they challenge us to make change.
But Resolutions can easily be misconstrued and they can be something that we can easily not accomplish. I was watching a video from Jonah Green on YouTube and it really hit home for me.
Every year we make this list of resolutions that we promise to everyone that we can fulfill and then they are later seen as just a fabricated idea we thought sounded good at the time. Jonah stated that instead of making resolutions, he was going to make goals. Because goals can only be achieved by plans and resolutions are just words that we put on a piece of paper.
When we hear that something is a goal, we become more dedicated and we push ourselves to achieve that because its much more fulfilling to achieve our goals that we have set ourselves than to finally cross off a resolution.
"Anyone can write a two-page paper of all the things they want, but if there are no plans behind it, the goals go from meaningful to that 2012 Kony campaign that didn't help anyone." -Jonah
"By just making a list and only stating the things that you want, thats like subconsciously telling yourself that your work here is done." -Jonah
Things will not just magically happen just because you put them on your end of the year list.
"Your brain doesn't want you to change. When someone can do something kind of cool, we treat them like they are something special. As if either of us couldn't do the exact thing if we just buckled down and tried. Its a fact that if you practice at something long enough, you can get at least kind of good at it." -Jonah
Jonah makes a challenge that instead of stating what you want, you should make a plan.
You want to get in shape...
Make your resolution that you are going to go to the gym 3 times a week.
Want to get better in school......
Make your resolution that you are going to spend 30 minutes studying each day.
Want to become a better person...
Make your resolution that you are going to spend your time and talents helping others at least twice a week. And that you will make 'me time' because often people loose themselves in all that life brings them.
You want to get closer to God.....
Make your resolution that you will set out to have 35 minutes of deep bible study and to pray and read the bible.Its so easy for us to make these wonderful lists and make them sound like the real deal, but actually do something. Don't just list it and defend yourself of why you put it there. Have a list of an actual plan that will show how you will change. It makes you more liable to actually do it.
I am definitely a victim of the list that just states what I want but after watching his video, I want to challenge myself and really make it a more true thing.
So for 2016
1) I am going to pray, read, study, and live for God. I will spend 30 minutes 3 times a week and really dig deep into what the Lord has written for me. God is someone that is always there and I am going to make sure I spend time getting to know him more and more.
2) I am going to listen to people. Every time someone is talking to me I am going to ask them more questions than they ask me. Its always easy to talk about myself, but in order to build a more deeper connection, I am going to ask them 2 more questions than they ask me.
3) I am going to spend time forgiving others and myself for what happens each day. I can't help how people react to things and I can't make everyone like me. I am going to spend each night for 10 minutes really thinking about what happened during the day and use that time to forgive the people and myself. You are a wonderful person and you are not perfect. When something bad happens, it is not your job to pick the pieces up and try to explain what happened. Tell yourself that you did all you could and leave it at that.
4) Like Jada Pinkett Smith says in her video about being a good mother, I am going to find how I can make myself happy before worrying about making other people happy. There will always be people that need to find their happiness from the people around them and I have been one of them too many times. Its too easy to expect friends and the people in my life to give me happiness and then blame them when its not there but true happiness has to come from within. It will make me a better person and it will have others see me for who I am and they will want the same. I am going to spend each weekend doing something that I love. Dancing is always fun but I am going to find new things that will bring me happiness. How can I expect others to be happy and love me for me when I haven't found it myself.
5) I am going to branch out from my comfort zone. I am going to fight for what I want. I have spent too many years hiding and just accepting whatever happened around me and now I am going to take back my life and make things happen. I can't stay innocent and I can't please everyone. I am going to focus on myself and find out what I want in my life to happen. I am going to join clubs and go to the auditions that scare me. I already did that in 2015 because I was worried I wasn't good enough. I am going to stick to my confidence that I have and believe in myself. Any audition that comes up and I am thinking a little about it, I am going to 100% go and not think. You only regret the chances you didn't take.
6) And like Jonah stated, one of my resolutions/goals is that I am going to try. Because none of these things will happen unless I try. I am going to try at everything that I do. The new dance I learn, I will spend less time judging myself and more time trying to make it better. The new classes I am in, I will put my whole effort into them and I will not just give up. I can do better and I am going to try. The relationships that seem like they are drifting, I am going to try to fix them and try to keep them there, because if I just give up than I would be taking the easy road. I have been pretty good in that aspect because I am still friends with my high school friends and it has been so hard to keep in touch and to keep that tie to everyone. But I put everything into it and thats why it works because I have tried and I have never given up. I will give people 10 chances if I have to because everything is worth fighting for. Never give up because you thought the outcome would not be in your favor.... The odds will always be in your favor... :)
Spend more time actually thinking about what you want to accomplish. Make them a priority and plan it into your life, because if you don't actually see it as part of your routine everyday than nothing will change. We can all say we want to loose weight but if we actually put it into our daily lives, we will see results.
Find your goals and stick with them, don't just make resolutions and then stash them away for the year.
Challenge yourself and we can do this together.
Thanks
Until Next Time,
XOXO,
Gossip Girl,
Aka... M'lyn
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